Again, another episode of information sharing.. this email I received from a friend of mine. Not the one that I took from hubby's email.. saya budak bagus bah.. eh, bukan budak.. jadi mommy sudah..
So obviously, we WOMAN loves our husband very much..(yang masih cintan cintun, bergerek,bertunang-tunangan tu jangan dulu terlebeh-lebeh sayang ah..)
We do anything for our husband.. and they did appreciate us.. but sometimes, when we're not too perfect, ada jugak bunyi2 yang tidak menyenangkan hati..
Tapi, sebagai manusia, we know our limit.. dan sebagai manusia jugak, husband memang expect things that usually higher than our level.. well, sapa suruh masa bercinta dulu..
'kamek maok belajar polah nasi lalapan..nda payah lagi abang pegi makan di restoran nasi lalapan tu'..
'kain baju u, i cuci sampai kelihatan seperti baru..'
'selagi matahari memancarkan cahaya, selagi itu lah cinta i kepada u berpegang kuat di hati u'
padahal, asal ja 'period' datang, trus muka masam..marah-marah..rumah jadi tunggang-langgang..hehe..
The scenarios above doesnt have anything to do with me ah.. BETUL.. tidak pernah saya bagi janji manis macam tu..sebab kain baju I pun kadang2 sampai seminggu dalam bakul..tapi itu time bujang lah..
So, the email that I received actually telling that MAN should also do something(not big, kecik pun cukup) to show how thankful u are to have a wife like us..
Janganlah bini nda sempat cuci baju, trus cakap, 'sama jugak macam aku masih bujang dulu..baju nda bercuci'.. kecik hati bini nanti.. kan perempuan di jadikan dari tulang rusuk kiri lelaki..fragile, mudah rapuh tapi dekat di hati.. jadi, kalau suda bini kecik hati, bahaya bagi bot-bot kecil.. pandai-pandailah susun ayat pujuk bini.. kalau nda,terpaksa suruh barathum yang cuci baju..ehhh..
Janganlah masa akad nikah, 'aku terima nikahnya...... siti payung intan berlian kasih delima...tunaiii', tapi selepas kahwin, 'Oiii..'.. macam tarzan ja..
apa lagi ah..haha..si binikedek, kalau part ini, macam-macam idea yang bukan-bukan keluar.. tapi again, all these scenario tidak ada kena mengena dengan saya..
laki saya baik.. dia sudah tanya awal what I want for my birthday, so that he can ready awal... Im thinking of kitchen cabinet, what say you, Enchek kedek???hihihhi..
Anyway kawan-kawan, enjoy & hayatilah information sharing ini..
1. Dress up for your wife, look clean and smell good. When was the lasttime you went shopping for designer pyjamas? Just like the husband wantshis wife to look nice for him, she also wants her husband to dress up forher too. Remember that the Prophet (PBUH) would always start with Miswakwhen returning home and always loved the sweetest smells.
2. Use the best names for your wife. Call your wife by the most belovednames to her, and avoid using names that hurt their feelings. Call her"Honey", "Sayang", "Dear", "Sexy"
3. Don't treat her like a fly. We never think about a fly in our dailylives until it 'bugs' us. Similarly, a wife will do well all day - whichbrings no attention from the husband - until she does something to 'bug'him.. Don't treat her like this; recognize all the good that she does andfocus on that.
4. If you see wrong from your wife, try being silent and do not comment!This is one of the ways the Prophet (PBUH) used when he would see somethinginappropriate from his wives (R.A). It's a technique that fewMuslim men have mastered. If that day your wife cooked a bit salty, justkeep quiet. A good wife will know that, she did not cook her best on thatday. A bad wife will say, "Just eat and dont complain!" (Hehehe)
5. Smile at your wife whenever you see her and embrace her often. Smilingis Sadaqah and your wife is not exempt from the Muslim Ummah. Imagine lifewith her constantly seeing you smiling.Remember also those Ahadith when theProphet (PBUH) would kiss his wife before leaving for Salaah, even when hewas fasting. So remember to kiss your wife even she have not brush herteeth yet....Its ok.
6. Thank her for all that she does for you. Then thank her again! Take forexample a dinner at your house. She makes the food, cleans the home, and adozen other tasks to prepare. And sometimes the only acknowledgment shereceives is that there needed to be more salt in the soup. Don't let thatbe; thank her!
7. Ask her to write down the last ten things you did for her that made herhappy. Then go and do them again. It may be hard to recognize what givesyour wife pleasure. You don't have to play a guessing game, ask her andwork on repeating those times in your life.
8. Don't belittle her desires. Comfort her. Sometimes the men may look downupon the requests of their wives. The Prophet (PBUH) set the example for usin an incident when Safiyyah (R.A) was crying because, as she said, he hadput her on a slow camel. He wiped her tears, comforted her, and brought herthe camel.
9. Be humorous and play games with your wife. Look at how the Prophet(PBUH) would race with his wife Aisha (R.A) in the desert. When was thelast time we did something like that? Try play hide and seek under theblanket, play catching at the playground, play police and thief, you thepolice, she is the thief....
10. Always remember the words of Allah's Messenger (PBUH): 'The best of youare those who treat their families the best. And I am the best amongst youto my family.' Try to be the best!In conclusion: Never forget to make Dua to Allah - Ta'ala to make yourmarriage successful. And Allah ta'ala knows best!
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